My Dad and Me

As I mentioned in a previous post
my parents were visting from Santa Cruz, Ca
this past weekend.

It was such a joy to have them with us.
My Mom is so caring and thoughtful.
My Dad is a Godly man.
Marie and I are so grateful to have them in our lives.

One thing I observed about my Dad and my own life this weekend.
My Dad is a disciplined stud.
I am a lazy man.
Each morning this weekend,
my Dad would wake up early and go running.
Not just around the block or a mile or two...
He ran miles each morning.
Saturday morning I walked through our garage
and there my Dad was
doing push-ups on our wood pile.

What did I do this weekend?
Slept in and woke up and eat pastries, lots of pastries.

My Dad is seriously motivated.
He survived a cancer scare 2 years ago
and is on a serious mission from God
to stay in top shape.

He even went surfing Monday morning at Trestles:

My Dad and brother-in-law Mark make the famous walk down to Trestles

What was I doing Monday morning while my Dad and Mark were surfing?

Drinking coffee at Coffee Bean.

I know I have vowed to get in shape before on this little blog of mine
but today I am declaring seriousness.
I will match my Dad and start running every morning.
Except I can't tomorrow.

Good Quote for those who Teach the Bible

"I don’t care if you love to preach. I just want to know if you love the people you preach to. Some preachers love crowds but don’t like the people in them."
-Rick Warren, last week at a leadership conference
(thanks Mark Beeson...Granger Community Church...Hi Dominique!)

Pictures of the Weekend

This weekend was a great weekend in the life of our family. We got to celebrate my graduation from seminary, My parents were down from Northern California all weekend and Marie and I and the kids had some great family time together. Here are a few snapshots from the past few days:

My wife is an amazing person, I feel so blessed by her. Her constant encouragement got me through seminary.


It was great to have my Mom and Dad with us this weekend.

Marie pulled out the fine China for our post graduation family dinner

Lily and my Dad share the same birthday, so we celebrated a few weeks early since we were all together

Lily was loving life as she opened her birthday presents

The Oakland A's swept the Boston Red Sox over the weekend and Samuel was "super pumped."

Concert for a Cause

This Sunday Night at Calvary
we are hosting an outdoor concert
featuring:

Mike Barnett (think John Mayer meets Counting Crows)
AJ DeGrasse (piano driven arrangements of hymns with such energy, you can't help but be moved)
Future of Forestry (San Diego Geniuses who once were the HUME/Flood Band, Something Like Silas)



During the concert we will highlight the great work of
KIDWORKS, a non-profit organization located a few miles from our church
that provides inner-city kids with free tutoring, computer access, leadership training
and mentoring. I am so excited for our church to partner with such a great organization.
So...

If you live in the OC, come on over to Calvary from 6pm to 9pm this Sunday night!

I Graduate from Seminary Today!

Today is the end of a 6 year journey of
studying to get my Masters in Theology
as I graduate from Talbot Seminary.
Thank you Jesus!

Marie, our kids, My parents, in-laws
sister and brother-in-laws, my sister,
friends Josh and Rose and my beloved Aunt Shirley
will all join us tonight for a dinner
to celebrate.

It should be a great day.

Did you know...
Legend has it,
Graduation ceremonies first begun
in the 1432 at Oxford University
in England.

Back than, graduates had to recite a
sermon in Latin
in order to graduate.

Thankfully, I don't have to recite any sermons
in Latin tonight, I simply have to avoid tripping
as I cross the stage.

I am so grateful for the opportunity to study theology
and I pray God uses my training for his
Glory!

4 Purchases I Made Yesterday and 1 Regret

Tuesday was a busy day
as I ran around town buying:
#1 - Nooma #16 - Store
One of the latest of the short film series
led by Pastor/teacher Rob Bell.
This is one of the best of the series.
The video talks about anger and what should make us angry
and what in reality makes us angry.
I don't always agree with Bell's theology,
but this short film is right on and brillant.
We are using it tomorrow night in our
"I feel Angry" series with our high school students.
#2 - A DVD/Teaching guide to Dan Kimball's book, "They Like Jesus but not the Church"
I picked up this resource for two reasons.
One, I plan to go make this a series next fall in our Young Adult Gathering as part of a larger Fall/Winter push to motivate/implore/encourage/admonish
our twenty somethings at Calvary Church to become more evangelistic (missional) in their living and thinking.
The second reason I got this resource is because a few of my high school friends are some of the non-Christians interviewed by Dan on the DVD.
I am curious to watch them on the DVD and observe some of the things they say. It is so convicting to hear their answers to what they don't like about Christians, because I was one of the actual Christians they grew up with.
#3 - A Costco CardFor the first time in my life,
I am a full fledged Costco member.
Weird.
I feel like a real adult.
Anyone want a 24 pack of lightbulbs?
#4 - Money to a Homeless Person
I gave out some money to a homeless person who came by our church.
I later found out that the story they told me was false
and that they were going from church to church in our area
milking money from people.
I regret giving out money so easily
without asking better background questions.
But the story seemed so real and convincing
I honestly felt compelled to give.

Congratulations Ryan and Melissa

Today my church officially hired Ryan Guard
to be part of the high school leadership.
I am really excited about Ryan coming onto our team!

Ryan and Melissa will be moving into the roles
of co-directors of the high school ministry
as I move out of high school ministry.

Melissa is a great leader.
Ryan is a great leader.

Our high school ministry is in for such a special season
with these 2 at the helm.
I am so proud to hand the "baton" over to both of them.

My Prayer for Melissa and Ryan
Lord, give them wisdom.
Give them humility.
Give them courage.
Give them creativity.
Give them love for students.
Give them patience.
Give them a heart for the lost.
And most of all
Lord, give them a burning passion for your name,
the name above all names, Jesus Christ.
Amen.

Today is Visit Your Relative Day and Peace Day: Coincidence?

If you are not a consistent reader of Relevant Magazine
you should be.

Their website www.relevantmagazine.com
is worth a look as well.

Here is what I read today:

"This Sunday, May 18th is Visit Your Relatives Day. Oddly enough, Peace Day is also celebrated Sunday. Is this a strange coincidence or a foolish dream?"

Marie and I are blessed to have incredible relatives on both sides of our extended families.
I am not just saying that, it is really true.
So today, I toast to you Doan, Acorn, Mittmann and Hess relatives.
The card is in the mail.

My Year Living Biblically

I came across this guy
who attempted to live a year in his life following
all of the Old Testament commandments, dietary laws
and customs.

Here is a fascinating summary of his book:
(from Relevant Magazine)
The Year of Living Biblically by AJ Jacobs
"I spent 12 months following the rules of the Old Testament. All of them. Hundreds of them. I followed the famous ones, such as the Ten Commandments and ‘Love thy neighbor.’ But I also followed the often-ignored ones, such as don’t wear clothes of mixed fibers, don’t shave your beard and, yes, stone adulterers.


It was an amazing, enlightening and life-changing year. It was a spiritual journey that moved from irreverence to reverence. You see, I grew up in a totally secular home. No religion at all. I’m officially Jewish, but I’m Jewish in the way the Olive Garden is Italian. Which is to say, not very. But in recent years, I decided I needed to see what I was missing. Was I neglecting something crucial to being human, like someone who goes through life without ever hearing Beethoven or falling in love? I dived into the Bible headfirst. And lo, it was awesome. I was surprised by how relevant much of the Bible’s ancient wisdom was to my 21st-century life. I was surprised by how baffled I was by other passages. I was surprised by how a lifelong agnostic like I am could find solace in prayer. I was surprised by how the Bible revealed my flaws and challenged me to be a better person.


Since I’m officially Jewish, I spent most of my year studying and following the Old Testament (though I did devote the last four months to the New Testament). I know that most Christians don’t follow a lot of Old Testament laws. And in fact, neither do Jews. Jews may avoid shellfish, as Leviticus says, but they don’t stone adulterers or sacrifice animals. Those were abandoned after the Romans destroyed the Temple in Jerusalem. But I wanted to try everything. As naive or misguided as it may have been, I wanted to get into the mind and sandals of my ancestors. And I’m glad I did. Because even the rules that seemed bizarre at first glance were thought-provoking and revealed important insights about faith, God and the Bible.


THE 5 MOST UNEXPECTEDLY WISE & LIFE-ENHANCING RULES

Keep the Sabbath.

I’m a workaholic (I check my emails in the restroom, in the middle of movies, anywhere). But the Sabbath taught me the beauty of an enforced pause in the week. No cell phones, no messages, no thinking about deadlines. It was a bizarre and glorious feeling. As one famous rabbi said, the sabbath is a “sanctuary in time.”


Give thanks.

The Bible says to thank the Lord before our meals. I did that. But then I got carried away. I gave thanks for everything—for the subway arriving on time, for the comfortable cushions on my couch, for my high-speed DSL connection, etc. It was a strange but great experience. Never have I been so aware of the thousands of little things that go right in our lives.


Let your garments be always white. (Ecclesiastes 9:8)

I chose to follow this literally—I wore white pants, a white shirt and a white jacket. This was one of the best things I did all year. I felt lighter, happier, purer. Clothes make the man: You can’t be in a bad mood when you’re dressed like you’re about to play the semifinals at Wimbledon or go to P. Diddy’s party.


Don’t gossip.

When you try to go on a gossip diet, you realize just how much of our conversations involve negative speech about others. But holding your tongue is like the verbal equivalent of wearing white. I felt cleaner and untainted.


Do not curse.

I used to curse a lot. In fact, my computer password was, at one time, a particularly adolescent bodily function. During my year, I tried to scrub up my vocabulary. My new curse words were: Fudge, sugar and shoot. Whenever I said them, my wife would respond by whistling the Andy Griffith theme song. She can mock me, but the weird thing is, I think my G-rated language made me a less angry person. Because here’s the way it works: I’d get to the subway platform just as the downtown train was pulling away, and I’d start to say the F-word. I’d remember to censor myself. So I’d turn it into “Fudge” at the last second. When I heard myself say “Fudge” out loud, it sounded so folksy, so Jimmy Stewart-ish and amusingly dorky, that I couldn’t help but smile. My anger receded. Behavior shaped emotions.


2 RULES I VIOLATED AT LEAST ONE TIME PER DAY (AND WHAT I TRIED TO DO ABOUT THEM)

You shall not covet.

This is like asking someone not to breathe. Especially in my hometown of New York. This is a city that runs on coveting. And on a typical day, I would covet dozens of things, everything from Steve Jobs’ latest gadget to my friend’s sprawling back yard. I came up with several tools for battling coveting. Perhaps the most effective was to overcome coveting with gratefulness. Every time I coveted something (like a flat-screen TV), I’d counter it with something I was grateful for (that I have a working color TV with good reception and a remote).


Be slow to anger. (Proverbs 19:11)

I knew I had to wrestle with my anger when I gave the finger to an ATM (in my defense, it did charge me a $2 fee). I never fully quashed my anger, but the best method for putting the brakes on rage came from the story of Jonah. It’s a wonderful story. God teaches Jonah—who was acting like a peevish teenager—to get some perspective. Jonah whines to God about the loss of a shady plant that was keeping him cool in the desert sun. So God asks him, “Do you do well to be angry?” And God reminds him what’s important: Jonah just helped God save Nineveh, a city of 120,000. Get some perspective


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I Really Need to Start Working Out

I haven't run or lifted weights in weeks.
And by weeks I mean months.

One of the side effects of not working out
(besides rocking the XL t-shirt these days)
is I have realized I have a lot of pent up energy.

This energy is normally not a problem
except when it is late on a Wednesday night,
me and the high school team are still at church cleaning up
from our Wednesday night student gathering,
all of the students have gone home and I get an idea
to push Matt Gargula down the steep church nursery stairs
on a rolly cart.
This is what happened:


Actually it wasn't that bad.
Here is what it really looked like:
So today, me and one of our great and understanding church custodians grabbed some puddy, a puddy knife and some napkins (to stuff the hole) and went to town on repairing the previous nights adventure.

I really got to start exercising.

p.s. - Matt Gargula is fine.
p.s.s. - The rolly cart is still fully operational.

32 Days

I started working in High School Ministry at Calvary Church Santa Ana
in January of 1999.

Bill Clinton was still President.
The Matrix was about to become the blockbuster movie release of the year.
No one had ever heard of American Idol or Google.

Now, 9 years later...I have 32 days left as the High School Pastor.
I have loved every single moment of pastoring students at Calvary.

I can honestly say that and mean it.

Now 32 days left. Crazy.

Don't get me wrong;
I am so excited for the next season of ministry God has prepared for me as Pastor of Local Outreach at Calvary Church. I believe God wants to use Calvary Church in huge ways within the Santa Ana and Orange County community. I can't wait to help be a catalyst for this.

But honestly I will miss High School Ministry.

I believe the High School Ministry will always be a part of me.
I will always care about it, pray for it, feel like it is the most strategic and important ministry of the church.

32 Days left to shepherd students and point them towards Jesus.
I will cherish every minute of it.

Fixing Toilets

This morning I fixed our bathroom toilet.
It wasn't working right,
so I went to work and in about 20 minutes
I fixed the problem.

Marie cheered. Samuel and Lily called me their hero.
Actually that didn't happen,
but I did feel proud that I fixed something
that was broken.

As a Pastor I come across so many broken people.
They have been scarred from other people's words and actions.
They have created problems through their own bad decisions.
One of the most gut wrenching things about being invited into
other people's brokenness as a Pastor is:

I cannot fix them.

Oh I have tried. I have tried saying just the right words.
I have tried listening, encouraging, challenging, admonishing.
I have tried anything and everything I can think of.
But when it comes down to it,
there is only one thing that can "fix" people.
There is only one thing that can "fix" you.
There is only one thing that can "fix" me and my issues.
Jesus.

Jesus is the one who can fix that which is broken.

Disclaimer:
Pleas don't read into this and assume I am anti-counseling.
Therapy can be used in great ways to administer healing to deep wounds.
Counseling can be a powerful instrument in correcting false ways of thinking.

Here is what I am saying:
The root problem that needs fixing in our lives is our sin nature.
Our sin nature leads us to make all kinds of decisions that lead to brokenness.
Nothing in this world can fix you and me.
Jesus is the only answer.

Jesus is the only hope we have.
Jesus is the one who "fixes" us.

One of my all-time favorite passages in the New Testament talks about this:
"At one time we too were foolish, disobedient, deceived and enslaved by all kinds of passions and pleasures. We lived in malice and envy, being hated and hating one another. But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of His mercy. He saved us through washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us generously through Jesus Christ our Savior..."
Titus 3:3-6

Part II of our ManCamp Video

In an attempt to drum up signups for our guys retreat, we recruited several of our pastors at church to film a 3 part video. This weeks installment was meant to be "Mother's Day Friendly..." Check it out:
video

Looking for a Gift for Father's Day?

It is never to early to shop for Father's Day (hint, hint to my wife).
I came across this website today:
somethingstore.com

Here is their tagline:
SomethingStore is a fun new website that operates simply: We will send you something, an item selected randomly among many things from our inventory, for $10 (free shipping) and you will find out what your something is when you receive it. What will yours be?

Some of the mystery gifts are pretty legit. One person got a Fossil Wallet.
Another received a Norelco Shaver. A guy from Nevada got a $25 Target gift card.
Others items are way less valuable than $10. It is all part of the mystery.
(link is courtesy of one of my new favorite websites: catalyst)

YOUTH PASTOR NOTE:
This idea might good to borrow for an opener for a youth group gathering...Have students give you $10 and they have to open a mystery gift you have wrapped. Or it could work out like most of my openers in our youth group and bomb awkwardly. Let me know if you try it.

PC vs. Mac, "The Rebuttal"

This is to all my
Mac apologists-hippy friends:
(especially Victor, Matt Gargula, Peter Pizzuto and all the Tech fellas at Church)





(I found this video on Dan Kimball's blog, my beloved high school youth pastor - Check out his site sometime: great thoughts...)

The Things You Do to Get People to Sign Up For Events

We decided that our annual Men's Retreat
needed some new spice to it,
so this year it has been renamed, "Man Camp."

Here is the first of 3 Videos we plan to show to our
church this month to promote sign-ups for the camp.

Life with an Older Sister

Samuel, our 6 month old son
thinks his older sister Lily, age 2
is the best thing ever.
Unfortunately, that means he is a willing subject
to Lily's dress-up days:

When It Comes to Spiritual Disciplines I Can...

Name a few:

Worship.
Fasting.
Prayer.
Solitude.

Um...that is about it.
I know there are more,
I usually can't think of any off the top of my head.
Our High School Ministry Team at Calvary (which I won't be a part of this summer...weird)
has a great theme planned for this
summer. It is called, "Think Fresh."
They will be passing out air freshners, kind of like these:

to every student and talking throughout the summer about
how the spiritual disciplines can keep your life and journey with Jesus, "fresh."

Today, Melissa and Matt G. were discussing Sunday's this summer and what spiritual disciplines to incorporate and in what order, when I began to think to myself,
"what spiritual disciplines do I need to work on in my life?"

Before I could answer that question, I had to go to the resident
experts on the subject, Dallas Willard and Richard Foster
and "re-remember" what are the spiritual disciplines.
Here is what I found:

Dallas Willard, in The Spirit of the Disciplines, and Richard Foster, in Celebration of Discipline, have compiled a list of spiritual disciplines and practices they believe were modeled in the life of Christ. These disciplines are typically organized into two categories:
the disciplines of abstinence (or “letting go”) and the disciplines of activity.

Disciplines of Letting Go
These practices allow us to relinquish something in order to gain something new. We abstain from “busy-ness” in ministry, family life, and work. We stop talking for a while to hear from God. We give up buying another material possession to experience God more fully. First Peter 2:11 warns us to “abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul.” Identify what is keeping you from experiencing greater strength and perspective. Do you talk too much? Are possessions controlling you? Are you too worried about what others think? Choose disciplines that will help you become more dependent on God.

Solitude—Spending time alone to be with God. Find a quiet place to be alone with God for a period of time. Use the Bible as a source of companionship with God. Listen to Him. Remain alone and still.

Silence
—Removing noisy distractions to hear from God. Find a quiet place away from noise to hear from God. Write your thoughts and impressions as God directs your heart. Silence can occur even in the midst of noise and distraction. But you must focus your attention on your soul. This could mean talking less or talking only when necessary. And it could mean turning off the radio and the TV.

Fasting—Skipping a meal(s) to find greater nourishment from God. Choose a period of time to go without food. Drink water and, if necessary, take vitamin supplements. Feel the pain of having an empty stomach and depend on God to fill you with His grace.

Frugality—Learning to live with less money and still meet your basic needs. Before buying something new, choose to go without or pick a less expensive alternative that will serve your basic needs. Live a simple, focused life.

Chastity—Voluntarily choosing to abstain from sexual pleasures for a time (those pleasures that are deemed morally right in the bond of marriage) to find higher fulfillment in God. Decide together as a couple to set aside time to go without sexual pleasures in order to experience a deeper relationship with God in prayer.

Secrecy—Avoiding self-promotion, practice serving God without others knowing. Give in secret. Serve “behind the scenes” in a ministry that you are assured few will know about.

Sacrifice—Giving of our resources beyond what seems reasonable to remind us of our dependence on Christ. Choose to give your time or finances to the Lord beyond what you normally would.

Disciplines of Activity
Dallas Willard writes, “The disciplines of abstinence must be counter-balanced and supplemented by disciplines of engagement (activity).” It’s choosing to participate in activities that nurture our souls and strengthen us for the race ahead.

Study—Spending time reading the Scriptures and meditating on its meaning and importance to our lives. We are nourished by the Word because it is our source of spiritual strength. Choose a time and a place to feed from the Word of God regularly.

Worship—Offering praise and adoration to God. His praise should continually be on our lips and in our thoughts. Read psalms, hymns, or spiritual songs, or sing to the Lord daily using a praise tape. Keep praise ever before you as you think of God’s mighty deeds in your life.

Prayer—Talking to and listening to God about your relationship with Him and about the concerns of others. Find time to pray to God without the distraction of people or things. Combine your prayer time with meditation on the Scriptures in order to focus on Christ.

Fellowship—Mutual caring and ministry in the body of Christ. Meet regularly with other Christians to find ways to minister to others. Encourage one another.

Confession—Regularly confess your sins to the Lord and other trusted individuals. As often as you are aware of sin in your life, confess it to the Lord and to those you may have offended.

Submission—Humbling yourself before God and others while seeking accountability in relationships. Find faithful brothers or sisters in Christ who can lovingly hold you accountable for your actions and growth in Christ.

take from Bill Donahue, Leading Life-Changing Small Groups, (Zondervan Publishing House, Grand Rapids, MI, 1996), pp. 51-52

So here is my answer to my question of wha spiritual disciplines I need to work on.

All of them!
But specifically, I feel really compelled to work on 2 specific disciplines:

I need to work silence. I talk to much. Especially in meetings at church lately.
I want to become a better listener, to think more before I talk, to consider
the implications of my words before I say them.

I also need to work on secrecy. I have been in the habit of self-promoting myself lately. I don't know why I have fallen into this. Maybe because I am in the transition phase of my new role at Calvary, maybe it has to do with something else, I am not sure. But I would like to do more things that are "behind the scenes," serving God without having to have anyone know about it.

The Art of Hugging

I posted this video last year,
but as I was looking over some possible "opener" videos to show
at the beginning of our Young Adult Gatherings at church
I ran across it in my archives.
So Classic, I had to post it again.
Enjoy:



Thanks to Justin McNabb for originally showing me this video.

Today

I am Reading This Book


I have 35 hours of reading to go to complete my Prayer class...

This Weekend, I feel like a real Pastor.

I am performing a wedding on Saturday

Speaking on John 8 to High School Students on Sunday

And leading a funeral for a Mom of one of our High School Students on Monday.

LORD, Be with me!

National Day of Prayer

Today is the National Day of Prayer.
In Washington DC they had a governmental prayer breakfast.

At my church Tammy, Nicole, Trevor and others created
a powerful prayer walk around church that guides people
in praying for our church, the community, our nation and the world.

In fact if you live in the Orange County area,
cruise over to Calvary Church Santa Ana today,
the prayer walk will be up until 10pm tonight,
it is well worth taking some time to go through it.

I am in the process this spring of reading and researching and praying
for my last class of seminary, "Doctrine of Prayer."

I have loved this process of studying and practicing prayer.
Here are a few things I have concluded through my studies and experience:

1. Prayer is hard work.
I think that we sometimes approach prayer with the belief that prayer will be easy or that prayer is a basic spiritual discipline not quite on par with fasting or scripture memory. In my opinion, consistent prayer is the most difficult spiritual discipline. I am exhausted after I pray, sometimes even more so than when I run or stay up late playing video games. Prayer is hard work, but oh, so worth it when it means that in prayer we connect with the living God.

2. Prayer can feel Risky
In presenting my requests to God, I am opening up the possibility that God will not answer my request. Honestly, it is sometimes easier not to pray than to open myself up to the disappointment of unanswered prayer. The truth I need to better understand is that God hears my prayers and responds to my prayers according to his all-knowing, all-loving character. What seems to be a "no" from God or a response of silence from God should not interpreted as God not acting, but rather him acting in accordance with his good, perfect and pleasing will which often times means a "no" or silence accomplishes His will in good ways I may never see or understand. I need to remember this in my daily life so as not to get discouraged in my prayers.

3. God asks us to pray to Him
The Bible tells us to pray. Simple as that. The mystery of telling God what He already knows, the hard work that prayer involves, the risk of disappointment that prayer can be, all of these things should not deter me from regularly praying because...GOD tells me to pray. At some level, beyond my questions about prayer, I just need to trust God and do what He tells me to do.
Pray.
So I do. I pray today on this National Day of Prayer, I will pray tomorrow on my day off from work, I will continue to pray all the days of my life.

Lately I have been saying this prayer a lot. It comes from Matthew 6, often times called the "Lord's Prayer":
9"This, then, is how you should pray:
" 'Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
10your kingdom come,
your will be done
on earth as it is in heaven.
11Give us today our daily bread.
12Forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from the evil one."

Last Thoughts:

- A great song based on the Lord's prayer is a new one released by Switchfoot's Jon Foreman. It is called, "Your Love is Strong." I love this song...It has been kind of a theme song for me lately. I have been playing it over and over on my computer.
Here is a live version of the song:
"We are made for God and our hearts are restless until they find their rest in

God."
- Augustine



"They didn't come to see you, they came to hear from Jesus."


-Message written on J Vernon McGee's Pulpit